To Kiss or Not to Kiss

Hey! Long time no blog update!  First off I want to let you know  I haven't lost interest in this blog and it is not closing. I started a new job in April and am still learning how to balance a job, my college courses and things outside of work, so if I do not update as often that is why!

  For this blog post I want to start a discussion, please feel free to participate. As the title of this post implies, "to kiss or not to kiss,"  I would like to know your opinions on the subject of  kissing.  I have heard people say and read in books and blogs that they are waiting until they get married and are standing at the altar to have their first kiss with the person they marry. Other's say wait until Mr. Right pops the question of "will you marry me."  And others say there is no reason not to kiss before you are engaged or married.   I am not sure there is a "right" or "wrong" factor. I think it is a matter of prayer and conviction.    Personally I am not an expert on kissing and have tossed the idea around to wait until I am married to kiss whoever my Mr. Right is, I am not saying that is set in stone, I am saying I have tossed that idea around.

So I would like your opinion, what do you think? What are your convictions about it?   There is a poll on the left side of this blog if you would like to submit your opinion that way too!

I look forward to reading your thoughts!

What If Mr. Right Doesn't Fit Your Agenda?

I typed this two weeks ago and thought I would share it now.


   Lately I have come to realize how many limits I am setting on what kind of man God has for me to marry. Let me explain. I have noticed I am real quick to tell God what my requirements are. When I am honest a lot of the requirements are selfish and really don’t matter. I have acted like Mr. Right will be perfect. That’s crazy. I’m not perfect. Several times God has corrected my thinking. For example one day I began to think I hope whoever I marry hasn’t flirted with a girl. Than it hit me upside the head, why would that be a problem? I have flirted with guys before. I would be wrong to judge a man by that when I am guilty of doing the very thing.

So what if Mr. Right doesn’t fit my agenda? Then what? What if all I planned in my mind is totally opposite of what God has in mind? What if while I’m looking for greatness I let greatness pass me by, by not taking the time to notice what is right in front of my eyes?

What if my list of “musts” I think are important, are not what God says is important. What if somewhere along the way I let my views of what my perfect man should be get in the way, instead of trusting God who holds the key?

What if everything I thought was right, is merely wrong and selfish. My preconceived ideas, just that my ideas. What if God in all His wondrous beauty is watching me with love and as a wise, loving and caring Father does, is waiting patiently for me to hand over my well calculated list of notions and give them all to Him.

I think somehow along the way I have painted a picture in my mind of who I think God should pick for me, when in reality God knows better than I.

So what if my Mr. Right doesn’t fit the agenda I have planned? I will gladly take him anyway, because He is the man God created for me. Whomever he may be. Making a list and checking it twice isn’t wrong, it is good to set standards and set them high. I’m not talking about standards. I am talking about things that don’t matter on the grand scale of things. I am talking about don’t let yourself think you are so right that you become so wrong. Listen to God. Let Him direct your paths.

Truth is, I am not sure what my Mr. Right will be like. I have an idea. But I keep thinking as good as my idea may sound, God’s plan is a whole lot better. I know what God has told me. There are some things I tried to tell myself God told me when really He did not, my selfishness got in the way and what I thought was right for me I insisted must be on my list and God would agree. There are a lot of things I know God has given me insight too, but there are other things I have added to it, that I need to subtract and just let God take wheel.

Don’t try to fit your Mr. or Mrs. Right into a mold God did not mold them in. God has the original, the perfect design. Trust Him!!




"Trust in the Lord with all your heart; and lean not on your own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths!"  ~Proverbs 3:5-6

Kissing Without Commitment

(I wrote the following thoughts in 2008 to post on my blog "I Am a Daughter of the King" but never got around to blogging it until now on this website. My thoughts are still the same, the only difference now is I am twenty-three.)


Talking to a friend of mine not to long ago the subject came up of kissing without commitment. We discussed how that might be emotionally hard for the people involved. Which of course lead me to think about the statement “Kissing Without Commitment” for a while after our conversation had ended.

I don’t understand how people can be “Friends with benefits.” In the long run it does not benefit either person but leaves them emotionally scarred. I don’t see how you can separate your feelings from just “having a good time” and feeding your lustful desires. Hormones may make it look good, and it may be good, but it digs it’s roots deep and causes pain and heartache because there is no foundation for commitment. At least that is how I am looking at it.

It’s hard to separate flirting from your emotions. Emotions trigger a flirting response, therefore flirting without commitment can cause a lot of regret and pain as well, so if flirting can bring a level of damage on its own, imagine the hurt kissing without commitment can bring? I don’t know much about kissing. I’ll be the first one to admit, at 22 that is not my expertise. Just some thoughts I have been thinking.

What do you think?

Duh! I Have Already Thought That!!

(I wrote the following when I was twenty-one.)

It is amazing how most people react when you tell them you are single, and not dating. The expressions on their face turn from disbelief, to shock, then immediately to an expression that tells you what is coming next, the “Why? Don’t you know you have to date to find the person you are to marry? You have to get married sometime, your twenty-one, etc...” Thankfully I don’t encounter those type remarks often, most people I talk to are understanding, encouraging, and respectful, whether they agree or not.

The few who choose to remark in a negative way, as if they must convince you your not alright until you have a boyfriend, it is as if they forget, “Duh! Like I haven’t already thought about my future already! I want to get married more than you want me too.” WOW! Amazing fact! (Sarcastic humor intended)

At times those remarks can be discouraging, frustrating, and sad, other times they come across as humorous, or both. For example, when a little child tells you, “You need a boyfriend,” it is funny, yet at the same time, sad that the culture they are growing up in demands, “You must have a boyfriend, or a girlfriend to be happy, there isn’t a life outside of dating.” How sad, and how wrong that message screams. You can date a thousand different people and never truly be satisfied and find complete happiness. Only in Christ can true fulfillment that brings lasting happiness be found. I am beginning to understand that truth more and more. Only in Christ can I truly be happy. If I am not happy in Christ before I am married, then our marriage is going to be one bumpy ride, because my focus won’t be on Christ first.

As much as I would love to be able to tell the person who asks, ‘Yes I have a boyfriend.” I have to wonder, am I ready for one? Is my life where it needs to be with Christ? Would I benefit Him in his walk with Christ or hinder? Those are some tough questions, because it means examining your heart. I would love to be able to tell my friends, “Guess what! I am FINALLY with Mr. Right!” Instead of this valentines wishing and sighing. Then again, why should I be wishing and sighing when I already have the greatest man who ever walked the face of the earth in my life, His name is Jesus!! I am coming to the point where I am learning to be content in this single state of singleness and when God gets ready to bring Mr. Right into my life. He will, in His own perfect timing. No complaining, griping, grumbling, and whining on my part will make Him move faster, so why waste my energy being negative and grumpy? I would much rather rejoice in the Lord always, and wait patiently, no matter how hard it is, for God’s perfect timing to unfold. After all, God created me, He created the man He made for me to marry, as I have said for years, surely God has sense enough to bring Him into my life when He sees fit to do so. In the meantime, I should focus more on allowing God to mold me into the woman He needs me to be, so I will be the kind of wife the man God has for me to marry needs me to be. The journey is exciting, yes it can be lonely at times, but ultimately, I have a heavenly Father with me each step of the way, and He brings comfort to my soul, smiles and whispers “Child I love you, hang in there.” Why should I be discouraged, when I have the greatest man in my life, Love Himself!!

"Marriable" by Hayley and Michael DiMarco

(I typed the following in 2008, I do not remember blogging it until now)


A week or two ago I finished reading a book titled “Marriable: Taking the Desperate Out of Dating” by Hayley DiMarco  and Michael DiMarco


I believe I first heard about this book online, and the title “Marriable” caught my eye. I wasn’t sure just what the book was about, but I wanted to read it. Last year in October or November I came across the book at a thrift store and bought it. It set on one of my bookshelves for some weeks until I decided to pick it up around New Years and read it. It didn’t take me long to get halfway through the book, then I slowed down reading it a little. This is a book that I wanted to throw within minutes of the introduction. More than a few times, I thought I would close the book and not read anymore. Mainly because they are for dating, and I am against dating just for the sake of dating.

At times during the book I wasn’t sure where they were going with their thoughts. It’s definitely a book that held my interest, but got under my skin at the same time. (“I’ve Got You, Under my skin!” I have been on a Frank Sinatra kick lately”) But back to the book, it did get under my skin a few times like I said, but it has a lot of good advice, and some points I have never considered, like the 10th chapter of the book is titled “Female Porn: The Seedy Underbelly of Chick Flicks and Romance Novels” I won’t give a play by play of the chapter, I’ll let you read it for yourself if you ever read the book, but I will give you the basics.

In this chapter Michael and Hayley DiMarco categorize chick flicks and romance novels as female porn. When I read the title I figured they were talking about trashy movies and books, but they aren’t, they are talking about your average romance novel or movie without any rated R trash. The authors talk about the chick flicks and romance novels, play to the emotions of a woman giving an emotional high, and ending with an emotional low once the movie or book has ended. Because we visualize us being the leading lady, and the “Prince Charming” in the story being ours. They go on to talk about women tend to fantasize a “perfect” man, when in reality there is not a perfect man or a perfect woman. The only perfect man to walk the face of the earth was Jesus. Most of the time romance movies and novels do not portray the ups and downs of a relationship, nine times out of ten it portrays the man living to please the woman and he never gets on her nerves. In reality that just isn’t so.

True, a relationship is suppose to be about pleasing the other person, serving them the way God intended, but that road will be a bit bumpy and rocky from time to time. Most books and movies do not portray that (not including many Christian books and movies that portray the truth, many Christian ones portray the truth good, bad, ups and downs, not just the pleasant all the time) Hayley and Michael go on to say that this type of high all the time could be just as harmful as a male watching porn. They talked about how a male after watching it thinks the woman has to be perfect in looks, like he sees in the smut he’s watching, just as a female thinks whoever her Prince Charming is, has to be as perfect acting in real life as on the big screen, or latest romance novel.

At first I wanted to argue “There’s nothing wrong with a romance movie….I like romance movies,’’ but the more I thought about it…the more sense they made. They weren’t saying watching a romance movie or reading a romance novel was bad (Unless it contains trash…then it is bad) They were saying to much at one time was unhealthy. Like I said I wanted to argue their point, one thing that hushed my argument was when I read the definition of pornography

“the depiction of acts in a sensational manner so as to arouse a quick intense emotional reaction.”

I want to share a brief portion of the chapter so as to better understand.

“Catch that? Emotional. We contend that the job of the chick flick, romance novel, and love song is to arouse a quick, intense emotional reaction. Can you feel it? We ask you ladies, what else arouses a stronger emotion in you than that heart-fluttering chick flick? What else gets you to dream of the perfect man and pray to God that you will get one just like him?
Any attack on the traditional porn industry always includes the cry that it creates unrealistic expectations in men. No woman can be that hot and sexy all the time. It’s just not fair to women for their men to look at that. (Of course there are other deep concerns, but we went into that in the last chapter.) However, the very thing that women complain about in male porn is also created by female porn. Check the pulse of any leading man from the biggest chick flicks and this is the rhythm his heart beats to: undying love, pure romance, sweet words, heroic rescues, persistent pursuit, tears, laughter, protection, flowers, gifts, and devotion. He never farts or burps. He’s never grumpy or wanting to be left alone. He’s always focused on the female, exhausting all his energies on pleasing her. He is the ultimate creation of the self-centered female who wants the world to revolve around her and her alone. Just as male porn caters to a man’s physical desire to be pleased by his mate, so female porn offers the same self-absorbed emotional aphrodisiac.” *Quoted from “Marriable: Taking the Desperate Out of Dating” by Hayley DiMARCO and Michael DiMARCO, pages 95, 98*

Like I have mentioned more than once. I wanted to argue with this chapter, and I did, until I got to thinking how much since it made. How many times have I watched a romance movie and felt an emotional high only to be disappointed at the end when I realized the movie was off, back to reality, I’m single, I’m not the leading lady in the film, and Prince Charming isn’t by my side. One movie that came to mind while reading this particular chapter in the book “Marriable” is the movie “A Cinderella Story” that is one of my favorite movies. I remembered the first time I watched it a night or two after Thanksgiving in November 2004. I remember being caught up in the story and instantly liking the movie from start to finish. Except after it was over, I remember I went from an emotional high to an emotional low and started throwing myself a pity party because I didn’t have a fairytale that turned out as great as the movie. I was still single.

I wrote in a notebook journal I kept to give to my Mr. Right, something along the lines of why do I put myself through so much torture? It was a great movie…but afterwards I threw a pity party because God hadn’t brought “My Mr. Right,” yet. After remembering that experience and many others, I can understand better the message the Authors are expressing.

Fairytales are nice, I like fairytales and I am a romantic at heart. And Yes, romance has a big part in marriage…BUT, and this is a big but, we must not focus only on the good and overlook the bad. We have to realize marriage is for better or worse, for richer and poorer, in sickness and in health. It is a journey, an experience, an adventure, a lifetime of growing together. Stop and think about growing a moment. What all does growing involve? We grow from the time we are conceived in our Mother’s womb, after nine months we are born, we still continue to grow, we learn to walk by stumbling and falling. We learn right and wrong by experience, by getting in trouble, by being corrected, by being taught. As we get older we realize life isn’t always fair. We realize there are difficulties, challenges, it isn’t always a bed a roses…get the picture yet? Neither is marriage, it isn’t always a nice smelling bed of roses. Roses go through a growing process as well, and even when they are grown, there are thorns.

Marriage is a beautiful gift from God, when entered into according to God’s plan, following His design which is clearly stated in His Word. Marriage is a wonderful adventure even when trials come along. Often times movies and books overlook the trial and error, the struggling and growing, and slide on over to the wonderful romance. In order to have a wonderful romance, lovey-dovey and feeling close….you have to go through the fire with each other, letting God lead the way, only then can you have a lasting romance.

See it’s like a cake….it starts with the batter, batter alone is pretty tasty, but put it in the oven, turn up the heat and let it bake for about 30-45 minutes and the whole house starts smelling fragrant. Take it out of the oven, frost it, slice it and put it on a plate, you now have an extremely tasty dessert, far better than the batter you started with. In a way that’s like marriag, in order to have a great romance, you have to go through the fire. You have to stick together and endure the heat from the oven….and with God you can. When you come out of the fire, out of the trial, you will be the better for it. Just like batter becomes a beautiful cake. When you stick together in marriage, God doesn’t just stop with the cake, He adds the beautiful decorations too, for a wonderful marriage.

Secular and many Christian books and movies slide over the hardships and paint pictures of bliss without growth. Without growth you cannot have bliss. Looking at it from that perspective, I definitely see what the authors are saying in this book. We have to look at it from all angles, not just from the self-centered please me view. But from the view of, I am created to serve God, in serving God, I am to serve the man I marry when the time comes. I am not to be self-seeking wanting him to serve and please me all the time, no his needs become my needs. You see the beauty in that? I do!

If you get the opportunity to read the book “Marriable” by Hayley and Michael DiMARCO, read it. You might enjoy it! One thing I will say in disagreement, I do not agree with the way they believe you have to keep dating until you find the right person. In a since they’re saying it’s like buying a pair of jeans, you keep trying them on until the pair fits. I look at it this way, if you pick up the right pair (size and style) to begin with, you don’t have to waste hours trying on the wrong pair only to be discouraged because they don’t fit right.

In the book they do make mention of singles waiting on God to bring their spouse, and it’s clear they disagree, that was one thing that irritated me throughout the book. I believe if I trust God, and listen to His voice, in His timing He will bring along Mr. Right. He will lead him in my direction, or place me where He needs me to be so he can lead Mr. Right in my direction. All in all God already knows exactly how it will be, He doesn’t need me getting tangled up in a million relationships that won’t work. He needs me trusting Him, serving Him and in His timing He will allow me and my Mr. Right to serve Him in marriage, whoever, wherever He may be. I am content to trust in God, because I know He will do just that!

Aside from differing views on dating, it’s a good book. One I found myself thinking about when I wasn’t even reading it.

Have you ever read the book? If so what did you think about it? What did you agree and not agree with?

♥ Introduction ♥

♥ I am truly excited about this website. For years I have wrote about "More Than Worth The Wait," I have used the phrase in articles. I even started a blog one time about my husband being "More Than Worth The Wait," on a website I had for teenagers. Now I want to start a whole webpage to spread the news that God is Love, God is good and I don't have to date to find a mate! :) Why? Because my God has my love story already planned and the man I am to marry, is absolutely positively "More Than Worth Waiting For!"
I have talked to others before who have never dated, or are "Waiting For Mr. Right," and I admire and respect them for their commitment to wait. It is also very encouraging to hear others testimonies because let's face it not playing the dating game and trying not to give in to the peer pressure can be a challenge, especially when coming across people who think you must date or you'll never get married. How ridiculous! It's even hard to be polite and answer them in a way that is pleasing to God without losing your temper because they are trying to tell you how to live your life. I hope this website encourages you and helps you along the way.
Remember God's way is best, His design is perfect, Trust Him, He will never fail you, but always lead you into all truth.
God has one person for you to spend forever with, don't give up hope. God is still God and always will be. His timing is perfect, not yours or mine, and when it's time, you will be with the man or woman (depending on your gender) God designed for you, if you trust God and not try and get ahead of God's timing. Let God mold you into the person He wants you to be, and let God be your everything, only then will you really appreciate the love God designed with you in mind!



My goal is the “officially launch” this website by Valentines. I realize I have a little over a week to do so, but that’s my plan and I am excited about accomplishing this goal! I have a lot of writings I have written over the years about waiting on the man God made for me to marry. I often wondered what to do with all of them. With this website I plan on sharing things I have written, thoughts I have as they occur. I have kept a blog for a few years now titled, “I Am A Daughter of the King.” On it I have shared some writings, but nothing as personal as I plan on sharing on this website. I am nervous about the thought of sharing personal writings on the world wide web, but praying about it I believe it’s something God approves of. For a while I have wanted to encourage other like-minded singles in their journey as they wait on God’s timing. I have also wanted to encourage those who might not be waiting, to give waiting a try. I want to discuss abstinence and other related issues on this website as well. I am excited to see what happens! I would love to hear your stories whether you are single, engaged, or married. One of my desires for this website is to have a section dedicated to reader submitted stories, poems, thoughts and ideas, so please feel free to share! ♥

I Am A Daughter of The King

(Previously posted on my blog "I Am A Daughter of The King" in April 2006)



    We spend to much time waiting and watching for Prince Charming that we forget to spend time with the King of kings and Lord of lords, with our Groom, the Groom that has a mansion waiting for us, He is waiting until He can take His bride home to be with Him. That man is Jesus Christ.


     Imagine, our groom has built us a home in Heaven, it has streets of gold, gates of pearl, hills of green, it is beautiful, a magnificant sight to behold, yet we don't even take the time to spend time with the Man who already love us, loves us so much He died on a cross, He suffered for us. Talk about a fairytale script, but this is not a fairytale, this is not a script. THIS IS REAL!!!!   Ladies, lets step up to the challenge and start realizing we already have the greatest Man that will ever Love us as much as Love can possibly Love, we have Love Himself. Jesus Christ is Love!!!!

    We keep saying and proclaiming that we are not going to be truly happy until we have the guy of our    dreams standing by our side, smiling at us with love and adoration treating us like his princess. That is a lie. We are not going to be truly happy when the right guy comes along, that God has intended for us to marry, until we start embracing the happiness found in Gods Son Jesus Christ.

    The most incredible Man showed us a great act of  love and that man is Jesus Christ. We do not need fulfillment in physical relationships with the man we are to marry, it will not be fulfilling or satisfying until we accept all of Jesus Christ, dig deep in the Word of God and take God for His Word, having a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.

    We do not spend nearly enough time with God now as it is, do you honestly think we will spend enough time with the man God has for us, when we are not spending time with the greatest man ever....Jesus Christ that made it possible for us to be married because God created us?

    Come on Girls, it is time to get real and start embracing Jesus Christ, letting God fulfill our every needs taking care of us until it is time for us to be married, to the man of our dreams instead of spending our single years searching for Mr. Right wondering if he is going to appear around the next corner.

  I spent to many of my teenage years wondering when I was going to be with the man God made for me, to talk to him, to get to know him, to hear him ask me to marry him, to walk down the isle on our wedding day when my Daddy gives me to the man I am to marry, and from that day forward we embrace a wonderful adventure being married!   But, you know what?  I should have and should be now letting God have control of my single time because if God does not  have control of my life now being a single girl, God is not going to have full control as easy when I am married as He would if I had of let Him take the reigns now, single and not dating.


    I want to have an awesome marriage one day, but it is not going to be awesome, until I start embracing the awesomeness of Jesus Christ.   Only through God can any marriage be awesome, but we have to let God be in complete control of our lives before we can have an awesome relationship full of love that is worth talking about and being an example of a "God Designed Married Life."

    Girls, we are daughters of the King!!!!   We are daughters of God.  Let's act like it. Being daughters of the King means we don't have to worry, we do not have to be afraid, we do not have to eye every guy in sight and wonder if He is Mr. Right, our Heavenly Father already has His eye on Mr. Right, He made him and knows right where he is at and He watches and takes care of Him everday.

I am a daughter of the King. I am ready to act like it.

Are you?

Lets start acting like Gods daughter's, and work to build a strong relationship with the man God has for us to marry.

What an adventure in marriage, when God has control of our lives before we enter into marriage!!!!

I Am A Daughter Of The King!!!!

My Father is God Almighty and He has my prince in His care, because my prince is adopted by God and is Gods child!!!!

Create In Me A Clean Heart..O God

(Previously posted on my blog "I Am A Daughter of The King." in October 2008)


  Going to Church at New Vision in Alabama before moving to Mississippi, we use to sing
 Psalm 51:10-11 with a few words changed to make it rhyme;

Create in me a clean heart O God

and renew a right Spirit in me.

Repeat

Cast me not away from thy presence O, Lord.

And take not that Holy Spirit from me.

Restore unto me the joy of thy Salvation

and Renew a right Spirit in me.

From the first time I heard the verses put to lyrics it became one of my favorite songs to sing at Church. I am not sure I paid much attention to the verse in Psalm before hearing it in song as a teenager. Today I still like singing the song when I'm doing stuff around the house, and I love reading the verses in the Bible.

Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.

Cast me not away from thy presence; and take not thy Holy Spirit from me.

Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me with thy free spirit.

~Psalm 51:10-11

I have read these verses many times, but one day a year or two ago I was reading them and began to think how when these words were penned surely it wasn't a prayer void of feeling and emotion as we often quote it, or sing it. I believe there was feeling and depth, meaning, sorrow and tears. More than just merely saying the words. I believe there was repentence and a cry to be heard. Remorse for sin committed.


Have you ever prayed these verses? I have. And believe me, it's not a prayer void of feeling. Think about. Read it for yourself. What emotions come to mind? I think there are to many scriptures in the Bible we read like we're quoting off football statistics. Or make-up tips and food recipes. Come to think of it I've seen people get more excited and I myself have got more excited quoting football scores, especially Alabama football scores, or reading off a recipe that sounds good, or giving a tip on make-up, or talking about a good book, or quoting my favorite quote. But when it comes to Bible reading, whether reading in my quiet time or reading a verse in Sunday School during our lesson, how many times can I recall hurrying through it, or reading it like there was no meaning behind it? To many times to count I am ashamed to say.

I want to start paying more attention to God's Word and not read it like it is a dull manuscript void of life and meaning, because in all truth the Bible is not just a manuscript, it is not void of life and meaning. It is God's Word. It is God's love letter to us and in His Word we find the life Jesus died to give.

Create in me a clean heart O God, and renew a right spirit in me. I know I need God's Spirit renewed in me so that my heart is clean and I glean from God's Word that which He intended all along, a deeper more personal relationship with my Him..my Father. Restore unto me the joy of thy Salvation, and uphold me with thy free Spirit. Have you lost the joy of your salvation? Does it need to be restored? Mine does. How? Dig deep in God's word and don't let go. Latch on like a dog with a bone and don't let anyone take it away from you. God's Word is life and truth. Only in Christ can our hearts be pure and true.

In the beginning was the word and the word was God and the word was with God the same was in the beginning with God. John 1:1-2 That's proof if we want a deeper relationship with God, we got to dig in His Word!

I want God to create a clean heart within me, to restore the joy of my salvation and renew a right Spirit within me. But I can only get those results by walking with the Master alot closer than I do.

Seek God! And let Psalm 51:10-11 be true for you!!

On Being Single

   (I wrote the following as part of blog post on the purpose of my blog "I Am A Daughter of the King" in November 2007.   I slightly updated it.)

     I know some of the pitfalls satan brings, I know the discouragement, discontentment, heartache and tears us single girls go through. I know how feeling lonely and rejected feels. Lonely because hey, "I'm single, and all my friends are dating," Rejected because of friends turning away when they start dating, or male friends lose all interest in friendship when you tell them, "Sorry, I don't date, I'm waiting on God to bring the right man to me." I know how it feels to explain "I don't date" to someone and they look at you like you have lost your mind, sometimes verbally expressing their opinions trying to convince you that you are wrong and after all they say, "If you don't date, how will you ever find a the right man?"



    I also know the joys of being encouraged by someone who understands. By adults who have your back, supporting you in the decision you have made. I understand how it feels to think, "Will my season of singleness ever end?" or how it feels watching family and friends mess up in so many relationships, yet seem to have happily found their Mr.& Mrs. Right.

    I use to throw my "Why them and when me?" pity party quite often until one day the Lord told me to stop comparing myself to everyone else. To obey Him and in His timing He would lead the right man into my life. Talk about a fast shut-up. Picture the reaction of cold water being thrown into someone's face, catching their attention. That is about how I felt when God told me that. I still have times of struggling with, "Look at them Lord, how come they are happy with someone, and here I have done things like you told me too, but I'm the one still single? That does not seem fair," as quickly as the thought comes, God usually whispers to my soul, "Patience." As I typed in a previous blog entry, I do not always like being patient. I have a hard time being patient, but with Christ's help I want to learn that in whatsoever state I am in to be content.

    Often I remind myself, "Patience is a virtue," other times I think, "Will I ever get this patient thing down right?" Sometimes it seems as soon as I have learned one lesson in patience, and think I have patience down pretty good, something else comes along and I realize I was not as patient as I thought, and I have to learn a new thing or two about being patient.

     Despite the struggles we go through being single, the rewards of following God and waiting on Him to bring the right person into our lives is far greater than the trials and temptations we go through. It can be tempting to throw your hands up in the air and say, “Well, I’ve waited this long and I am still single, this doesn’t seem to be working, let’s try something else, maybe even the dating game,” But, I know the wait won’t last forever and as I have already said the rewards of following God are far greater than the loneliness, struggles and trials that we face. For me, I have waited to long to give up now. I have come to far to throw my hands up and say, “Well, let’s try dating.” I don’t want to try dating. Dating during my season of singleness holds no appeal to me. The only dating I ever want to do is with the man God designed for me to spend my life with, to love, honor, cherish and obey. Yes, I believe in courtship, and dating with a purpose, but not dating around just for the fun of it as if it was a past time. I also believe when married dating can be a blast! And why not? Aren’t you suppose to romance your spouse? YES!!

    I pray I can encourage you to stay strong in the Lord, and realize You are not alone. God is on your side!

    I am a daughter of the King, I want to live like it! God has everything under control, who am I to doubt His judgment, His plan, and His perfect time? God is God and I am not! Thank God for His loving kindness towards us; that He delights to give us the desires of our hearts, and one day in His perfect timing, He will bring to me the man He created to be my husband, and I his wife, serving God together everyday, to bring glory, honor and praise to the one true risen King, Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior!


I am a Daughter of The King!

Washing Dishes

    (Posted on my blog "I Am A Daughter of The King" in January 2008)




        Washing dishes is not one of my favorite things to do.    I would rather load the dishwasher than wash dishes by hand, but I cannot always load everything into the dishwasher.   A lot of times it can get annoying having to wash dishes. Especially when I would rather be doing something else, like getting online, working on my websites, or watching t.v.   At times my flesh gives me fits trying to get me frustrated and aggrevated with having to wash dishes. The feeling of aggrevation doesn't last long without God reminding me of a lady I went to Church with while living in Alabama.


    One Sunday morning she filled in for our Sunday School teacher.   That morning she said washing dishes means there was food to eat, washing a lot of dishes means there were people to share the food with, it means we have people in our lives.   I do not remember the exact wording she used, but her words of wisdom have stuck with me ever since.

     It is amazing how God will bring things to our remembrance when we need to be reminded of them. The basis of the lesson she gave was being thankful.   Even thankful for the little things that seem to be aggrevating, or that we try and make into bigger things. Now,  when I grumble under my breath or try and complain to the Lord how unfair it is to wash dishes when I would rather be doing something else, He reminds me of what this lady taught, and how I need to be thankful.

    Washing dishes means I have family to love, food to eat, a house to live in and many blessings God has given me that I take for granted everyday.   God also reminds me I need to practice now. I need to practice patience and self-control in doing the chores that need to be done, even when I do not want to do them. Because one day a home will be my responsiblity to take care of. When I am married as a wife it is my honor to care for my husband, cooking, cleaning, ironing our clothes, etc.. even washing dishes! I need to practice love and thankfulness for the opportunity to serve now so I will appreciate the task a whole lot more when I marry the man God created for me to love, cherish, honor and obey forever!


    By our Kitchen sink hangs a plaque my Mama has had for as long as I remember. It is also a reminder to me to be thankful and wash dishes with a cheerful attitude.   Reading the words always convicts me, and speaks to my soul, especially on days, or nights I would rather be doing something else besides standing at the sink washing dishes.   When I look at it, it reminds me to tell God thank you for my family and the opportunity to serve. I do not know who wrote the following poem that is on the plaque but I want to share it with you.

"My Kitchen Prayer,"

Bless my pretty kitchen Lord,

and light it with Thy love.

Help me plan and cook my meals,

from Thy Heavenly home above.

Bless our meals with Thy presence,

and warm them with Thy grace.

Watch over me as I do my work,

washing pots and pans and plates.

The service I am trying to do,

is to make my family content.

So bless my eager efforts Lord,

and make them Heaven sent."

~*~Author Unknown~*~

    Washing dishes isn't so bad when I remember God loves me, He loves my family.   I have family who loves me, I love my family.   My Mama does so much for our family, she shouldn't have to be the one to wash dishes all the time. Washing dishes is a way of serving and letting God mold me into the woman He created me to be. You see in life there are many tasks I might not want to do, but as long as God is in it helping me each step of the way to do the job I know I should, then nothing is to great or to small. For with God all things are possible. Nothing is impossible with God. (Luke 1:37) I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me. (Philippians 4:13) Ye are of God little children and have overcome them because Greater is He that is in you than He that is in the world. (I John 4:4)


    Chores aren't always something I want to do.     In fact hardly ever do I want to do them, but doing hard things when I don't want to improves character, and I want my character to be improved. I want to be a great wife to the man God designed for me to marry. I cannot and will not be a great wife if I do not start practicing now to be the woman God designed me to be.   Serving starts at home. I cannot expect to accomplish great things for God outside my home, if I do not first accomplish small things at home that are great tasks when God is in it.

   No matter what you are facing, let God help you through it. Let God walk with you tomorrow, He is already there anyway and knows what is in it.


Helping around the house is a great responsibility.   It shows we love our family.   We are called to serve. Jesus served others.  We are to follow His example, even in our homes doing everyday chores. Jesus said He will bless us if we give a glass of water in His name. Imagine how much it pleases God when we do our chores and things around the house for our family. The blessing of pleasing God should be enough for any of us to want to do what we should, in and out of our homes.

Ecclesiastes 9:10 says,

"Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with all thy might......"

Colossians 3:23-24 says,

"And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily as to the Lord, and not unto men. Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of inheritance: for ye serve the Lord God."

I also believe helping out around the house with chores is a way of honoring our Parents too. Honor thy Father and thy Mother is one of the Ten Commandments.

Ephesians 6:1-3 says "Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honor thy Father and thy Mother which is the first commandment with promise: That it may be well with thee and thou may live long on the earth."

I like knowing I am pleasing my parents, but even more I want to please my Father God. My Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, even if that means washing dishes!
I am a Daughter of the King, I am called to follow Jesus.     Jesus served, so will I.


"Rejoice in the Lord always! And again I say rejoice!!" Philippians 4:4